Newspaper cutting of my grandparents' wedding in 1909
After choosing their gift, they’d cross it off the list and return the list to the bride or her parents. Under no circumstances was the list offered without being requested.
Many guests didn’t request the list and simply bought a household item they deemed appropriate and which they could afford.
At that time most couples lived at home with their parents before the wedding so had no household items of their own.
It was a standing joke to ask after the wedding how many toasters the couple had received because, for some reason, electric toasters were a popular gift among givers.
A few weeks after our own wedding we’d been invited to that of a couple of friends. We had to turn down the invitation - we said we had a previous engagement but the truth was that we just couldn’t even afford the bus fare to get there.
They had a set of saucepans on their list which we managed to get for them with Green Shield stamps that we’d saved.